Ok, Guess the news.....

I bet you can! Though I am totally dumb! And mad!

We went up to see the new arrival, and mum asked if she could come up with us, 'not to see your dad, I want to see the kids/grand kids' - OK.
So, she stays downstairs, we are upstairs, we get there late Friday night and hubby goes out to see Alfie... on his own (kind of knew he would want to but still felt a bit put out. Though it is his daughter/grandchild and nothing really to do with me as that is the kind of relationship we have, not really a step mum relationship, just his dad's wife.) Next day, we all go, bar mum who is going out. Find out when I get back, yep, she has gone out to lunch with my dad....?!?!?!

Everyone knew that was why she came up, except it seems me who is so trusting and actually believed she didn't want to see him, after telling me only 5 days before she was going for a divorce again! Why do I always get suckered in? Had a good night out with the girls that night, got home reasonably early at 1.45am, but after getting my sister in after falling over 4 times then falling flat again in the flat, we eventually got to eat our pizza - by this time cold, and then after her partner went to bed in disgust (at the state she was in! She couldn't even remember going to my mum before we came upstairs and getting right in her face saying 'mum, do you really love dad? REALLY love him? do you?!' as we drag her off upstairs!) we were talking rubbish, my sister telling me she could see so much sadness in my eyes and why didn't I just let it all out? Eventually got away to bed at 4am! ARGH! So I didn't get much sleep! Saw Alfie again, took loads of pics, and then we set off back home.

Today, mum has told me she is moving back in with my dad.....I sit and shake my head as I type this....I think I really should just wash my hands of it all. Think about getting some training and emigrating! Best off away from it all? She is giving notice on her flat and will be off up in January. Said that part of what has held her back is the fact me and the kids will not be up there.... well thanks for that! Will I fall for it again if she ends up changing her mind? How much rope do you give your mum? How long do you keep being there to pick up the pieces?

Alfie really is a lovely baby. So good for her too. She seems to be doing very well too. I always wondered how on earth I would cope on my own, but if I had a baby like she has and no PND I would probably have been alright! I did at one point think this could have been our baby, looking back when she first said she was pregnant, and hubby wanted her to get an abortion and I said I would rather she had it and we brought it up than that, though that was never a plan as she wanted him. Next visit, 4 weeks!