Wednesday 18 February 2009

Ill - again!

Yes, got the lurgy....or a throat infection/flu that left me in bed for days unable to hardly swallow and sipping water even felt like razor blades cutting my throat. On anti-biotics now, which has helped me with the swallowing/ aches and shakes etc but still have a sore throat and stupid tickle that nearly makes me sick when I cough! Ah well, at least I am not dying!

Mum seems to be settling in well, just waiting on fridge freezer, which should arrive today, and her bed, which doesn't come until 2nd March...so she is kipping on the couch! Has stayed here, and is coming down tonight to stay while we jet off to sunny Scarborough to visit family, sort out the flat, etc, then it will be just over a week until her bed comes! She had problems with the heating, but it is sorted now!

One minute hubby has job at the council, next he doesn't....getting sick of it now! Been told, had emails etc but nothing on paper....so still waiting!!! On the other job front, he is having a meeting today with the big boss man to get some things sorted out, see how the land lies financially, as things seem to be worse than he thought.... :o( So going from being great, no worries in a few months financially, to woe, what have we done?! Ah well, still have roof over our heads....

I did get a cheque for the ppi insurance I had on an Egg loan that was missold! Yay! Thought of all the glorious things I could spend it on....then the bills came in! Just waiting for it to clear... from £750 to £600 already as the bank I paid it into have dropped my overdraft!

I did something I wish I hadn't....like I always do! Looked at something I shouldn't have...
I have always, from as far back as I can remember, loved going in my mums jewellery box. I never ever took anything, but loved trying it all on, and just seeing what was in it....well, when I was up unpacking her stuff before she got here, I came across it...so had to look!
When my grandad died last year, all my brother wanted of his was his 'best' watch, the one saved for special occasions, rolled gold. He couldn't find it. I suspected my dad had taken it first out of spite...or it had been pinched by someone and he hadn't noticed. Well, I have found a mans watch.... and don't know if it is my Grandads. I really should ask my mum, confront her if it is, but then should I have been going threw her jewellery? argggg! Don't want to ask my brother what the watch was like, as don't need any more trouble there. I am thinking it is one of 3 possibilities...1. My dad put it there and mum doesn't know. 2. My mum does know because she put it there. 3. It isn't even my grandads, but dads/her dads watch. Going to try build up the courage to say something today, and if it is Grandads, take it up for my brother!!!

Still stuck in a rut with the weight loss....thought I would have done well this week with being ill and not eating for nearly 2 days... but no, I have gained! Of to start swimming again when I get back I think! Well, that is about it for now.... Got to go get dressed, been waiting for my avon order to arrive since 7.30am and still no sign... hope he hasn't had an accident!

Tuesday 10 February 2009

Nearly a month!

Where does the time go?!

Lots happened! Mum has finally come to her senses and is moving out...and down south to be near us! She has got a flat, is on the train as I type, and has some bits already in the (unfurnished) flat that were couriered down on Sunday, has ordered a bed, fridge freezer, washer and tv to be delivered this week, though the bed won't be here until March, so she will be staying at ours. We got a sofa and table from the local Cancer Hospice shop, and I think she wants to go get a wardrobe too...
Picked up a cheap kettle and toaster and kitchen bin/drainer etc from good old Argos, going to get an iron today... Dad been a w&*%er and was not going to get the money for her deposit and first months rent, but eventually got it out on his credit card, instead of going to see about a loan! But she has to pay him back!!! She has been given some money off my Auntie to buy the sofa/kettle/toaster and bits, and then is going to just see how she goes on. She will get her rent paid, being on disability living allowance, and most of the council tax, so just has to pay electric, water and food ... plus tv licence and phone, and sky if she gets it! I will become her carer, which my sister was up home, so will get £200 a month to care for her. So thinking of giving up the Avon, as it isn't taking off...credit crunch and all that!

My sister, silly, silly, silly child, has made a huge mistake. Fallen for the flattery of a married man, and nearly ruined her marriage, not to mention his. :( His wife has gone lived, as anyone would, nothing has happened, just lots of talk, deep emotions etc which I think can be worse than just casual sex/one off. It has all come out, he told his wife he was leaving her for my sister, though he had told my sister he wouldn't mention her name! MEN! She told her hubby, who loves her to the ends of the earth and has forgiven her, and just wants her reassurance that she loves him back...which I don't think she even knows if she does... :( very sad state of affairs. Married man has turned his back on my sister and is making a go of it with his wife, blaming my sister for doing all the running, flattering etc (he is older) and his wife has been 'harassing' my sister and her hubby. Having not been in that situation myself, I can't comment on how I would react, though I would probably slap the other woman and chop of hubby's bits!! So I have every sympathy for her. Apparently, he told my sister a lot of nasty stuff about his wife, so she feels she has done nothing as bad as she has, and 'how dare she call me a slapper', but as I said to her, two wrongs don't make a right! And it takes two!

It is coming up to the Anniversary of my Grandparents, and when they both died last year, Grandma in March, Grandad in June, we made a pact, us 4 kids, to meet up around the time of their anniversary, just us, to remember them by, as the best, and only example in our lives after the revelations from my parents, of true love. Seems a bit weird after all that has gone on recently! Trying to get things arranged, I am going up there in the hols for us to get together, still trying to get hold of my brother to see if he is free, and then we will just go out for a meal and remember the good times! And hopefully get my sister's head out of the clouds and back down to earth and her family!!

Kids have had one bug after another, with a short respite in between! Currently, they are full of cold, but coping well! I've had a migraine all weekend, should have carried on taking my magnesium when af arrived! I have learnt for next month! Hubby is doing ok at work, and trying to get the contract finalised for the council work. Think he is going to do both jobs, as he says he can spend one day a week on the council work, and the rest on sorting out the paper, which could go one way or the other!

Still not sorted the flat, we are staying in it when we go up next week, so will see what state it is in, though we have had a letting agent go round and he says a lot needs doing before renting it out.... more money we haven't got! Any way, still taking it a month at a time, which I suppose is one up from a week at a time! We have had to sell the little Mazda MX5 as it blew its engine! Sold it on ebay for spares/repair as it was going to cost £800 to do the work, and we had already spent £250 to find that out! Made it back with selling it, and £100 more, so have money to do the shopping this fortnight!

Well, think that is me up to date! Off to sort out my washing, oh, and lunch! Then shop, and pick mum up from the station! Exciting stuff!!!