Where does the time go?!
Lots happened! Mum has finally come to her senses and is moving out...and down south to be near us! She has got a flat, is on the train as I type, and has some bits already in the (unfurnished) flat that were couriered down on Sunday, has ordered a bed, fridge freezer, washer and tv to be delivered this week, though the bed won't be here until March, so she will be staying at ours. We got a sofa and table from the local Cancer Hospice shop, and I think she wants to go get a wardrobe too...
Picked up a cheap kettle and toaster and kitchen bin/drainer etc from good old Argos, going to get an iron today... Dad been a w&*%er and was not going to get the money for her deposit and first months rent, but eventually got it out on his credit card, instead of going to see about a loan! But she has to pay him back!!! She has been given some money off my Auntie to buy the sofa/kettle/toaster and bits, and then is going to just see how she goes on. She will get her rent paid, being on disability living allowance, and most of the council tax, so just has to pay electric, water and food ... plus tv licence and phone, and sky if she gets it! I will become her carer, which my sister was up home, so will get £200 a month to care for her. So thinking of giving up the Avon, as it isn't taking off...credit crunch and all that!
My sister, silly, silly, silly child, has made a huge mistake. Fallen for the flattery of a married man, and nearly ruined her marriage, not to mention his. :( His wife has gone lived, as anyone would, nothing has happened, just lots of talk, deep emotions etc which I think can be worse than just casual sex/one off. It has all come out, he told his wife he was leaving her for my sister, though he had told my sister he wouldn't mention her name! MEN! She told her hubby, who loves her to the ends of the earth and has forgiven her, and just wants her reassurance that she loves him back...which I don't think she even knows if she does... :( very sad state of affairs. Married man has turned his back on my sister and is making a go of it with his wife, blaming my sister for doing all the running, flattering etc (he is older) and his wife has been 'harassing' my sister and her hubby. Having not been in that situation myself, I can't comment on how I would react, though I would probably slap the other woman and chop of hubby's bits!! So I have every sympathy for her. Apparently, he told my sister a lot of nasty stuff about his wife, so she feels she has done nothing as bad as she has, and 'how dare she call me a slapper', but as I said to her, two wrongs don't make a right! And it takes two!
It is coming up to the Anniversary of my Grandparents, and when they both died last year, Grandma in March, Grandad in June, we made a pact, us 4 kids, to meet up around the time of their anniversary, just us, to remember them by, as the best, and only example in our lives after the revelations from my parents, of true love. Seems a bit weird after all that has gone on recently! Trying to get things arranged, I am going up there in the hols for us to get together, still trying to get hold of my brother to see if he is free, and then we will just go out for a meal and remember the good times! And hopefully get my sister's head out of the clouds and back down to earth and her family!!
Kids have had one bug after another, with a short respite in between! Currently, they are full of cold, but coping well! I've had a migraine all weekend, should have carried on taking my magnesium when af arrived! I have learnt for next month! Hubby is doing ok at work, and trying to get the contract finalised for the council work. Think he is going to do both jobs, as he says he can spend one day a week on the council work, and the rest on sorting out the paper, which could go one way or the other!
Still not sorted the flat, we are staying in it when we go up next week, so will see what state it is in, though we have had a letting agent go round and he says a lot needs doing before renting it out.... more money we haven't got! Any way, still taking it a month at a time, which I suppose is one up from a week at a time! We have had to sell the little Mazda MX5 as it blew its engine! Sold it on ebay for spares/repair as it was going to cost £800 to do the work, and we had already spent £250 to find that out! Made it back with selling it, and £100 more, so have money to do the shopping this fortnight!
Well, think that is me up to date! Off to sort out my washing, oh, and lunch! Then shop, and pick mum up from the station! Exciting stuff!!!
Tuesday, 10 February 2009
Monday, 12 January 2009
Time flys
So much has gone on in the past few weeks that I haven't had time/energy to blog!
From what I can remember...
Finally managed to get little miss into going to bed at a reasonable hour - 9-10pm! Don't know how we did it, perseverance probably!
We are losing our tenants in the top flat...which is a relief! There has been one problem after another with them, the final straw came when my BIL went to take the paint off the bath (they had painted it and said they would take it off if we wanted, as it was beginning to peel) They were not happy with what is underneath. Granted, it needs re-enamelling as the bottom is like sitting on very very fine sandpaper, which is not a bad thing, and won't kill you, and we can't afford to get this done, barley keeping it together as it is! I said they could either live with it as it is not a health risk, or get it re painted at their own cost. Also appreciated they might want to find somewhere else to live. This is after we have aloud them to put goal posts in the front garden so their son can rip up the lawn playing football, erect a portable shed to store their mobile scooters in, cleared out furniture we had there, as 'they needed the space'. They are also running an Internet business, and storing their broken cars on the front drive and road! Heard nothing.... then got this, ' we have been to the local private council tenants association and they want to come and look at the bath, and also the huge crack in the ceiling in the front room. what do you want to do?' ....... WHAT?!?!?! I was livid. Sent BIL up to check on the 'huge crack' that has been there for over 30 years from where there was some subsidence, and it was pasted up. It is exactly the same.... he had words, asking what they were playing at, and if we wanted we could chuck them out for running a business from the property....and they have found somewhere else.
Hurrah! Just got to decide what to do with it now! Hubby not want to sell it, and in this climate it wouldn't be worth the mortgage! Thought about holiday letting, but it means forking out for furniture etc and paying rates etc...too much hassle? So may go down the letting route again, but pass it on to a company to deal with all the rubbish!
Hubby quit his job and has started his new one today, still as editor, and there is the possibility of a council job coming up in the near future, which would be financially better for us, but would it do his head in? I did think about moving back home and into the flat, but it is really too far a commute, and wouldn't do our marriage any favours.
We have all had the flu last week, still suffering abit now, going to go take some pain killers, think it might be a migraine, again! Seem to have had at least one a week this last 3 weeks...af did arrive though so thought it might stop them for a while...might just be with the flu...
Well, must go get my son from school...still struggling...but he has a review in feb so will see what they say then, and if they want to look into the dyslexia, though doubt hubby will ever accept it. He thinks the school is lax...I don't think it is compared to his cousins who didn't get homework over the hols and he got 20 pages! Granted, only has to be in this week, but still!
From what I can remember...
Finally managed to get little miss into going to bed at a reasonable hour - 9-10pm! Don't know how we did it, perseverance probably!
We are losing our tenants in the top flat...which is a relief! There has been one problem after another with them, the final straw came when my BIL went to take the paint off the bath (they had painted it and said they would take it off if we wanted, as it was beginning to peel) They were not happy with what is underneath. Granted, it needs re-enamelling as the bottom is like sitting on very very fine sandpaper, which is not a bad thing, and won't kill you, and we can't afford to get this done, barley keeping it together as it is! I said they could either live with it as it is not a health risk, or get it re painted at their own cost. Also appreciated they might want to find somewhere else to live. This is after we have aloud them to put goal posts in the front garden so their son can rip up the lawn playing football, erect a portable shed to store their mobile scooters in, cleared out furniture we had there, as 'they needed the space'. They are also running an Internet business, and storing their broken cars on the front drive and road! Heard nothing.... then got this, ' we have been to the local private council tenants association and they want to come and look at the bath, and also the huge crack in the ceiling in the front room. what do you want to do?' ....... WHAT?!?!?! I was livid. Sent BIL up to check on the 'huge crack' that has been there for over 30 years from where there was some subsidence, and it was pasted up. It is exactly the same.... he had words, asking what they were playing at, and if we wanted we could chuck them out for running a business from the property....and they have found somewhere else.
Hurrah! Just got to decide what to do with it now! Hubby not want to sell it, and in this climate it wouldn't be worth the mortgage! Thought about holiday letting, but it means forking out for furniture etc and paying rates etc...too much hassle? So may go down the letting route again, but pass it on to a company to deal with all the rubbish!
Hubby quit his job and has started his new one today, still as editor, and there is the possibility of a council job coming up in the near future, which would be financially better for us, but would it do his head in? I did think about moving back home and into the flat, but it is really too far a commute, and wouldn't do our marriage any favours.
We have all had the flu last week, still suffering abit now, going to go take some pain killers, think it might be a migraine, again! Seem to have had at least one a week this last 3 weeks...af did arrive though so thought it might stop them for a while...might just be with the flu...
Well, must go get my son from school...still struggling...but he has a review in feb so will see what they say then, and if they want to look into the dyslexia, though doubt hubby will ever accept it. He thinks the school is lax...I don't think it is compared to his cousins who didn't get homework over the hols and he got 20 pages! Granted, only has to be in this week, but still!
Saturday, 20 December 2008
Mad half hour
Just cleaned my bathroom, top to bottom...at 11.30pm...is that crazy or normal?
After weeks of little one being up until 3am, we decided to get her up at 8am today, let her nap for 2 hours (and I did too!) at 11.30 then she was bathed and in bed for 8pm! YAY, cracked it..... NOPE! Up at 11pm...still wide awake despite my efforts to keep her in bed, ''it's dark outside, it's night time, lets go to sleep'', so back to square one. :( Will have to try again tomorrow until she gets the concept of sleeping from 8 - 8 again!
Full of cold again, though not too bad, just cold not aches and pains that I had last time. Kids too, though they seem to sail through illness. Probably because they don't have to get up and get on with things!
Do you think it would make too much noise to put the washing on? Am I really insane? Only not vacuuming the place because of the noise! ah well, at least it is getting done....
After weeks of little one being up until 3am, we decided to get her up at 8am today, let her nap for 2 hours (and I did too!) at 11.30 then she was bathed and in bed for 8pm! YAY, cracked it..... NOPE! Up at 11pm...still wide awake despite my efforts to keep her in bed, ''it's dark outside, it's night time, lets go to sleep'', so back to square one. :( Will have to try again tomorrow until she gets the concept of sleeping from 8 - 8 again!
Full of cold again, though not too bad, just cold not aches and pains that I had last time. Kids too, though they seem to sail through illness. Probably because they don't have to get up and get on with things!
Do you think it would make too much noise to put the washing on? Am I really insane? Only not vacuuming the place because of the noise! ah well, at least it is getting done....
Saturday, 13 December 2008
Not much happening...
Usual stuff, like we seem to have a cold, get rid of it, only to get it back a week or two later! Little one's sleep pattern is all out of kilt, and she is now up until 1-2am, so driving us all nuts, though I do get to lie in until about 10am with her when hubby does the school run! So can't grumble!
Had terrible pmt, really bad. Feel awful as I seem to take it out on the kids, what with hardly seeing hubby due to work, panto visits, meetings, job searches etc. Snapped a few times at them which isn't their fault, don't seem to realise it until after I've snapped! Coming to the end of my period now though, so hoping to be back to happy mum - well, as happy as I get! I think the only time I snapped at hubby was through email, after some idiot called at 10.40pm, when I had finally managed to get the kids to bed at a decent hour of 8.30pm and thinking I had broken the routine, and woke them up! I was livid! I emailed and told him what I thought of the stupid man, why didn't he call hubby's mobile, and asked him to thank him for waking the kids! 2am it took to get them back off! 2AM!!!! Makes me mad still, LOL!
Hopefully seen the end of my piles, went to the hospital on Friday and after waiting for over an hour to be examined, I was given an injection to get rid of it, though have to go back in 3 months for a second one to totally do the job. Was not a pleasant experience, having a camera up there, quite unusual and a little traumatising towards the end... ah well, hopefully won't need that doing again!
Anyway, think that is all for now, little one is still up, watching a dvd...magic roundabout...would you believe it! She's got in the night garden and Disney, but wants to watch the scary one that is her big brothers before bed!! Strange child...! Going to get in with her, as I seem to be kicked out of mine by the boys! Typical!
Night all x
Had terrible pmt, really bad. Feel awful as I seem to take it out on the kids, what with hardly seeing hubby due to work, panto visits, meetings, job searches etc. Snapped a few times at them which isn't their fault, don't seem to realise it until after I've snapped! Coming to the end of my period now though, so hoping to be back to happy mum - well, as happy as I get! I think the only time I snapped at hubby was through email, after some idiot called at 10.40pm, when I had finally managed to get the kids to bed at a decent hour of 8.30pm and thinking I had broken the routine, and woke them up! I was livid! I emailed and told him what I thought of the stupid man, why didn't he call hubby's mobile, and asked him to thank him for waking the kids! 2am it took to get them back off! 2AM!!!! Makes me mad still, LOL!
Hopefully seen the end of my piles, went to the hospital on Friday and after waiting for over an hour to be examined, I was given an injection to get rid of it, though have to go back in 3 months for a second one to totally do the job. Was not a pleasant experience, having a camera up there, quite unusual and a little traumatising towards the end... ah well, hopefully won't need that doing again!
Anyway, think that is all for now, little one is still up, watching a dvd...magic roundabout...would you believe it! She's got in the night garden and Disney, but wants to watch the scary one that is her big brothers before bed!! Strange child...! Going to get in with her, as I seem to be kicked out of mine by the boys! Typical!
Night all x
Sunday, 7 December 2008
My little girl is growning up....
She's 2 today. At 1.37am two years ago she made her way into the world, through some very trying circumstances. I was still awake this morning, had just finished reading my book and looked at the clock, 1.37am. I snuggled up to her as she was in with us and had only just gone off herself, and was thankful to have her, though I didn't contemplate what I went through for her. I nearly lost her. and myself. And two years on I am still on meds ....
She is worn out now after opening pressies and cards, or rather her brother did most of it! After pigging out on chocolate, she gave in and fell asleep on the sofa watching In the night garden, dvd she got from her Auntie.
I have just made some butternut squash and cream cheese soup (yummmy!) and I think I am going to have to go make some tea soon. What to do with chicken breast....hmmm might go surf for some inspiration....
She is worn out now after opening pressies and cards, or rather her brother did most of it! After pigging out on chocolate, she gave in and fell asleep on the sofa watching In the night garden, dvd she got from her Auntie.
I have just made some butternut squash and cream cheese soup (yummmy!) and I think I am going to have to go make some tea soon. What to do with chicken breast....hmmm might go surf for some inspiration....
Sunday, 23 November 2008
What to do...
I can't decided if I sould keep this blog private, a secret from my hubby, or if I should let him know that I have a blog...where I post all my inner thoughts....
What to do?
Any ideas?
Advice?
Would it help or hinder?
Ruin or save?
Please advise....anyone....
What to do?
Any ideas?
Advice?
Would it help or hinder?
Ruin or save?
Please advise....anyone....
Friday, 21 November 2008
Still plodding on....
That's how it feels most days. Kids full of cold, passed it around, so we all feeling under the weather and pretty rubbish.
I have started doing Avon....Avon Calling! Trying to get a bit extra in, to pay off some bills! Sat working out our income/outgoings last month, and we don't have enough income for what are necessities never mind anything else! Here's hoping hubby gets that job offer soon with bigger pay! Even contemplating a paper round!
Couldn't sleep last night, blogging in my brain again! eventually got to sleep just after 4am, woken at 7am, and had about half an hour before little one woke... Don't feel too bad...yet (yawn!)
Everything is still 'foggy' in my brain. Can't seem to focus on doing things, or rather thinking things. In typing this, I have looked out the window and veered off into random musings...and seem to do that a lot! I have given up on getting of the pills. Decided it is better to be like this than contemplating suicide every other week, bursting into tears most days, and generally feeling worthless! At least when I do have the odd moment like this on the pills, my mind soon wanders off in another direction!!
Don't have anything funny/witty/informative to report, pretty much my life! Only news I have is our neighbour and landlord died this week. Funeral is on Monday. He battled with Cancer for 11 months. I don't know what will happen as far as we as tenants go.... so a bit up in the air with that. I was looking at taking on the little village shop and post office just up the road from where we are, but we would have to sell our home up north, and then with the economic climate, we would probably not get a mortgage big enough for it... It's a shame, it's a lovely village, nice pub over the road, 4 bedrooms above...well decorated...fallen in love with it! Oh well. Maybe if hubby wins a small fortune!
I have started doing Avon....Avon Calling! Trying to get a bit extra in, to pay off some bills! Sat working out our income/outgoings last month, and we don't have enough income for what are necessities never mind anything else! Here's hoping hubby gets that job offer soon with bigger pay! Even contemplating a paper round!
Couldn't sleep last night, blogging in my brain again! eventually got to sleep just after 4am, woken at 7am, and had about half an hour before little one woke... Don't feel too bad...yet (yawn!)
Everything is still 'foggy' in my brain. Can't seem to focus on doing things, or rather thinking things. In typing this, I have looked out the window and veered off into random musings...and seem to do that a lot! I have given up on getting of the pills. Decided it is better to be like this than contemplating suicide every other week, bursting into tears most days, and generally feeling worthless! At least when I do have the odd moment like this on the pills, my mind soon wanders off in another direction!!
Don't have anything funny/witty/informative to report, pretty much my life! Only news I have is our neighbour and landlord died this week. Funeral is on Monday. He battled with Cancer for 11 months. I don't know what will happen as far as we as tenants go.... so a bit up in the air with that. I was looking at taking on the little village shop and post office just up the road from where we are, but we would have to sell our home up north, and then with the economic climate, we would probably not get a mortgage big enough for it... It's a shame, it's a lovely village, nice pub over the road, 4 bedrooms above...well decorated...fallen in love with it! Oh well. Maybe if hubby wins a small fortune!
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